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how can i overcome my name as a %#&@$!? Category: Parties and Nightlife ..; How Can I Overcome My Reputation as a %#&@$!? By knowing the difference between a %#&@$! and a;Ho. A Ho puts out. If she doesn;t, shes a %#&@$!. Be a %#&@$!. ..Yo, Mike! When I was younger I was a tad promiscuous, sleeping with half of the city by the time I was 19. I don;t regret it because I enjoy sex and it was my own choice. I still have sex but not nearly as much as I used to. The thing is, because of my past, its making it kinda harder for me to find a boyfriend. Whenever I meet someone new they either know me as a %#&@$! or they find out through their friends. How can I get past my "reputation" to land a lover? -- help mi!!!! old asian %#&@$! .. Dear old asian %#&@$! Have you stopped %#&@$!ting around because you ran out of people or because youre tired of waking up to strange ceiling patterns? Id rather hear that youve stopped plugging every opening you walked by because it's no longer fulfilling, not because you;re scared of what people will think. If youre serious about taming that Access of Evil between your legs, you've got a few options, but before we go into that, allow me a rant: The whole notion that you have to worry about your 'reputation' sounds like the church got together with farmers to produce Grade A Bull%#&@$!. You're SUPPOSED to be %#&@$!ty when you come out. Your underwear is SUPPOSED to fly off at the thought of mangina. Your heels are SUPPOSED to fill with helium at the sight of a hottie. So what if you speak eight languages and you can't say 'no' in any of them? So what if you walked around bars with a mattress strapped behind your back? That's part of coming out. You have nothing to apologize for. Long-term, you need to stop caring so much about what other people think or you'll lose your own identity. Still, I'd be a fool not to acknowledge that many people do care about your past and would rather judge your history than your character. Here are your options: Move. It's the quickest way to restore your reputation. Unfortunately, it's also the most expensive and disruptive. I'd only recommend this if you live in a small town where your mother is the only person who refuses to call you what everybody else does: "Trampolina." Mostly be-cause she thinks 'Meat-starved nympho' is more appropriate. Wait it Out. As old meat moves out, new meat moves in. This takes patience. If you're like most 19 year-olds, you probably think the word means somebody who has an appointment with a doctor, so this option seems a bit limited. Change your Hangouts. Go where people don't expect you to go. Join sports clubs, book clubs, anything that gets you out of your normal surroundings. Get a Makeover. Confuse the hand-wringing sex-phobics who actually think your "reputation" defines you. As my drag queen friends like to chant, " A little make-up, a little paint, will make a man what he ain't." I'm not proposing mascara but do change your look your hair, your clothes, your hair-trigger %#&@$!. Change your Body Language. A lot of guys are bi-lingual--they speak English and Flirt. That's okay, but make sure you're flirting is subtle. I don't care how open-minded you are, watching somebody you're interested in throat-plunge three different guys at a bar is a turn-off. Pay attention to what you're doing in public. If you're a handsy kind of guy who hangs all over people, touching them, kissing on them, you need to stop because you're reinforcing the reputation you're trying to get rid of. New reputations require new behaviors.