happylittleoyster

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Several years ago, I sold everything and spent a year in Bali, where I tried to do nothing and just...listen to life. Today I live a city-life, but love taking the time to get away, see new things, lose myself in a foreign setting and find myself again. Been doing that solo for a long time, and now I'd like to share those adventures with someone.

I'm looking for a relationship that will help us both evolve to higher, more meaningful levels of living. I love talking about things other than shoe-size, but I'll rarely avoid good flirtation, naughty-talk or silliness.

Like many Cancers, I'm sensitive, but mostly to insensitive people. I live on honesty, strive for authenticity and open communication...and I expect my friends and lover to do the same. I love a romantic, playful, kinky, grounded, patient, friendly man. Ideally, I want a relationship with a guy whom I can also know and admire as a friend...and a good human being.

I love driving up the coast in my Saab with the top down, attending peace rallies and marches, taking spontaneous camping trips to Joshua Tree, swimming naked, volunteering, writing, people-watching, being silly, singing, playing with my niece and nephew, and watching sunsets with people I love. I studied animation at CalArts, and I did the industry thing for a while. Occasionally, I still do some freelance, but now, I'm kinda forging my own path. Ultimately, I want to start a non-profit.

I enjoy reading, audiobooks, exploring L.A.'s restaurants and obscure L.A. sights, Netflix nights, discovering classic and foreign films, going through all the supplemental stuff on DVDs, spending hours in bookstores, endless intense conversations in coffeeshops, getting into theatre events for free, museums, walking, storytelling, laughing and making love with a bold, honest, emotionally available, sexy man. On my best days, I can be spontaneous. And I enjoy planning little surprises for someone I care about. I'm a rabid fan of LOST, Family Guy, The Simpsons, The Daily Show with Jon Stewart, The Colbert Report and Real Time with Bill Maher. I prefer singer-songwriters to pop-stars, meaningful lyrics to a good beat, good stories to special-effects spectacles. My tastes in music are diverse: South African, old country, classic rock, emo, new age, folk, queer, acoustic, rock, classical, showtunes and soundtracks. But don't ask me for some artist's bio or discography; I love them for the feeling they give me.

I'm really into dark, smooth, trim, muscular ethnic guys, around my age and height, but I won't limit myself... Certain things I'll leave open to fate. I do prefer a guy who is comfortable and experienced with his sexuality and body. Someone who knows who he is and what he wants and how to please another man.

Once upon a time, I worked out regularly, but these days I'm packin' a bit more weight than I like. My goal is to get back on a fitness regime. My ultimate goal is that ever-elusive six-pack. I'm looking for someone fit and healthy who can join me on this journey to better health and better body.

I'd love to take up ballroom dancing with my partner. Or even African drumming and dance which I tried in college. I wanna learn to scuba dive someday, but I can't afford it now. I'd love to find a mate to work-out with so we can drag each other to the gym (with some coaxing, flirting, and sexual bribery, if necessary). I can't stand guys who try the "Don't-Be-A-Girlie-Man " act to motivate fitness. I'm not a cyclist, by any means, but I love bike rides down the beach. Someday, I'll do the AIDS Ride from SF to LA. I love walking and hiking, but don't do it nearly often enough. I love getting out of the city to enjoy some real air. I used to be a vegetarian, but now I try to keep my meat-eating in moderation (but I've always loved devouring a good, warm tube-steak). On my better days, I practice meditation. I'd love to get back into yoga and take up ken-do. When I'm working-out, I enjoy it. But when I'm not, I practically run from it. Speaking of which, when I work-out, I prefer running for cardio. I love going for a horseback-ride at least once a year (with a saddle, thank you very much).

Although physical chemistry is important to me, what really stirs my tea is a guy who is interested in spiritual beliefs and personal ethics similar to my own...or at least a person who would not feel threatened by a request to talk politics, contemplate art, philosophize, or tell me all their thoughts on God.

What I believe (though it waxes and wanes in intensity), I try to put into practice everyday, not just on Sundays. I'm not interested in "churchianity." Though I was raised Catholic, I don't subscribe to any doctrine other than what my heart and soul dictates. I'm very tolerant of other belief systems, and I don't proselytize or want to convert anyone, but I love discussing spirituality, so be prepared. Ideally, I'd love to meet someone who is at a similar place in their spiritual journey, but physical chemistry still matters.

I love teaching and working with kids...womb-envy perhaps. I'd love to have kids someday, but finding a husband is first priority. I love to cook, but more often than not, I burn. I'm a true Cancer: a homebody, a nester. I'm handy with tools and love a balanced, clean, simple, cozy home. I can be super-organized one day, and then terribly dishevled the next. I have ADD, so I have my...err...moments...but I am managing it. One day at a time...

I'm an art-school graduate, so I tend to lean away from mainstream, popular, loud, wild scenes. I love romantic getaways and afternoons at the beach. I do not do the WeHo scene, the White Party or the like, and I never, EVER "party-n-play." Since I don't drink (much) or like techno, the bar scene is kinda lame to me. I can have a better time over coffee, a pretty set of eyes, a disarming smile, and an engaging conversation. In short, I prefer to create my own scene rather than join one.

Ultimately, I'm interested in inward journeys and sharing experiences and passions. I believe in self-healing and nonviolence as a life-style. I believe in living deliberately, joyfully, beneficially and honestly. I believe in having safe and sacred sex, shifting paradigms, and laughing with life: the profane AND the profound. I believe in demonstrating compassion and walking my talk. I believe I'm not quite there yet, but I'm on my way.